American Idol David Hernandez Releases “ILY.”His Inclusive love letter
American Idol’s David Hernandez will release “ILY.”, a new summer anthem that is perfect for the Pride season, on May 21. Co-written with Stewart Taylor and produced by Alex Teamer and Push Kahlon, its powerful message is one of inclusion and how it is vital that we love one another for who and what we are. “ILY. is not pronoun specific and that was intentional,” Hernandez points out. The initial pre-chorus was written as “I wouldn’t be the man I am if it weren’t for you”. Hernandez changed the line to “I wouldn’t be who I am, if it weren’t for you”. “I want everyone to be able to identify with the song’s message. We are lacking inclusion in music and it needs to be recognized because inclusion inspires understanding and humanizes our experiences.” Hernandez’s “ILY.” is being distributed independently and is available now on Apple Music, Spotify, Tik Tok, Amazon, and all other major e-music retailers. Its music video is on Youtube.
It is important to David Hernandez that we normalize the LGBTQ experience, and instill in everyone that love is love, regardless of race, gender, or sexual orientation. “Growing up, I was only taught the dynamic and gender roles between a man and a woman,” Hernandez reflects. “There was never any rule or guide book on how two men can coexist in a romantic relationship. Navigating it on my own has been challenging, especially when many people in the world still continue to view same sex relationships as not normal.”
The “ILY.” video, shot by Arno Diem, depicts two people in a relationship that are struggling with each other’s shortcomings and insecurities. They visit a therapist, played by trans actress, Alexa Abraxas, and discover that through the heartache, they share a common thread of love for one another and that for many, it’s the obstacles we overcome that make a relationship stronger.
Benji Schwimmer from So You Think You Can Dance plays David Hernandez’s love interest in the video. He also choreographed the dance sequence that he taught to David in two days. “I had never danced so much in my career!” David laughs. “Benji is an incredible and patient teacher. He made the experience much less stressful and really helped me to connect the movement to the music. “
“Talent is a funny thing,” Benji Schwimmer reflects from his LA home. “It sometimes means you have to deal with personalities that aren’t the easiest to get along with because it goes hand in hand with one’s genius. That was not the case with David. Here you have an artist who not only can sing the roof off but also was on time for every rehearsal, practiced till we both were hot sweaty messes and never stopped seeking the best solutions to the project at hand. Beyond all of that, David is just an awesome, humble person, and it was a true pleasure to be able to move and create with someone I now call friend.”
David Hernandez began singing at age six, starring in musicals and performing with various theatre companies. At fifteen, he started writing original music and recording his arrangements. In addition to American Idol, he has showcased his talents on The Ellen Show, The Today Show, MTV’s TRL, EXTRA, Entertainment Tonight, Access Hollywood, Teen Choice Awards, Idol Tonight, FOX-TV’s Idol Gives Back. He was named among TV Guides’ Sexiest Stars and opened for John Legend at President Barack Obama’s Inauguration. His previous single, Beautiful, released in 2016 became a Billboard Top 200 Dance Chart hit.
He has released two full-length albums, 2011’s I Am Who I Am and most recently, KINGDOM: THE MIXTAPE, an album that included twenty original tracks, many of which reflected on the love and loss he experienced since rising to fame on American Idol.
David and Benji recall different experiences coming out. David’s was simple in that he phoned his mom after a breakup, crying, “Mom, someone broke my heart”. She asked, “Who baby? What’s her name?” David answered, “Shane.”
Benji’s coming out consisted of battling through fourteen years of reparative therapy within the Mormon church. He fought his temptations towards the same sex for many years until finally coming out via a 4-hour film documentary.
David Hernandez hopes “ILY.” inspires acceptance and understanding as grace and love are essential. “We are all beautiful and intricate beings that just want to love and be loved,” he says. “This Pride season, be who you are unapologetically and authentically. Break free from judgment and live your best life! ILY.”
Queer bear singer J.R. Price celebrates body positivity with perky summer single "Daydream"
Queer bear singer J.R. Price celebrates body positivity with perky summer single "Daydream"
Much of the country — and that especially includes here in Texas — has been gripped in a polar vortex (note to self: Polar Whoretex is a good drag name for Dallas) that has us all thinking more about winter than summer. But that changes with the release today of bear artist J.R. Price's title single off his new EP: "Daydream." The upbeat pop number is all about acceptance and celebrating "love is love." And it does so by emphasizing a body positivity too often overlooked in the gay world. (Not here at Unleashed LGBTQ, though — we're all about diversity, in all its forms). Check out the video below.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jo58eMgTSy0
— Arnold Wayne Jones
Taste the Rainbow with an Outdoor Adventure
By Arnold Wayne Jones
The cliche of queer culture — especially gay male culture — almost always involves huge crowds, half-dressed boys shaking their booties, elbow-to-elbow parade routes (or dance floors) and colorful drink specials. And sure, we all like that sometimes. But many LGBTQ folks have found a soul-satisfying way to camp it up… literally.
Rainbow Ranch
You may think of camping as a pastime, perhaps go so far as calling it a hobby, but for a segment of the gay population, it approaches the level of genuine lifestyle. In Texas, it’s popular enough that gay-specific campgrounds like Grizzly Pines outside of Houston and Circle J Ranch in East Texas attract loyal followings. And none is larger, more storied, or more family- and pet-friendly than Rainbow Ranch Campground in Central Texas.
Conveniently located about equidistant from Dallas, Austin and Houston, Rainbow Ranch has been on the Lone Star State’s gay landscape for nearly a quarter of a century. Its 300 acres abut the calm, northwest finger of Lake Limestone, on the outskirts of Groesbeck, Texas, a sleepy burg of fewer than 5,000 where the biggest building in town is probably the high school and country music plays on plenty of radio stations. It might not seem the kind of setting that would welcome scores of gay men and women visiting... and when it first opened, that was true. In the late 1990s, the town even held a meeting about whether to “allow” a gay campground to open. But when local building supplies companies saw how much lumber was being purchased, restaurants noted an uptick in business and grocery stores reported campers averaging $50 a week in sales… well, gay or not, Rainbow Ranch became an indispensible part of the economic vibrancy of the community.
Vibrant also describes the ad hoc community that manifests at the ranch most weekends. While newcomers can rent a few cabins ($65–$100/night), a 2,800-square foot house that sleeps 14 ($200/night) or individual sites for trailers and just tents (as little as $25/night), many of the diehard fans of Rainbow Ranch have set up nearly-permanent RV homes with a monthly rental, complete with added amenities like decks, fire pits and sheds for storing their golf carts. (I asked one devoted weekender when the last time he moved his RV, he replied, “It went from the dealership to right here more than two years ago.” Many have remained stationary much longer.) As a result, the slips where the RV reside create quaint neighborhoods nestled in the folds of nature; there are about 80 at any given time, with room for about 200 total.
And if your conception of an RV is a metal can hitched to a pickup truck, well, that’s where the lifestyle part comes in. Some of these set-ups are just shy of palatial: Elaborate elevated patios, widescreen TV, fully-furnished outdoor sitting areas where afternoon cocktails are more common than mosquitoes; many weekenders love to cook, or barbecue, or simply entertain. (There are noise rules to keep things quiet after midnight; and because it’s family-friendly, this is not a clothing-optional resort.)
The owners have turned virtually every other weekend into an “event” weekend, whether Women Fest, Half-Price Rentals, Memorial Day or New Year’s Eve bashes, which attract many newcomers… us included. (We drove the easy two hours from Dallas for the wine-and-painting party, where attendees are encouraged to quaff and paint on canvas, guided by a professional art teacher.) We were immediately struck by how “camp” takes on a whole new meaning with the gays when you’re out in nature… and how much the culture embraces newcomers.
First-timers staying in cabins are well-advised to prepare. While this isn’t exactly “roughing it” like Gilligan and company, don’t expect four-star amenities: Bring your own bed linens, pillows, towels and toiletries, as well as food, beverages and dining utensils, including cups. (Cabins have hot plates, microwaves and outdoor grills, but there’s no room service or on-site restaurants!) You may want to bring firewood (though you can buy it there), but don’t forget charcoal briquettes, lighter fluid, matches, an ice chest and aluminum foil or be prepared for a 20-minute drive into town to pick up supplies.
The pace is as calm and relaxing as you want it to be… but can also be raucous fun. Miles of walkable hiking trails snake through the wooded area, though you can usually hitch a ride on one of the regulars’ golf carts for gentle off-roading excursions. Kick a ball around, hang out by the outdoor pool (weather permitting) or canoe along the lake. Or stop by Barbie and Ken’s, a permanent RV near the entrance that is as close as the ranch comes to an official party headquarters. Barbie serves as entertainment director, often serving as DJ; there’s a bar and karaoke room as well.
But the real draw if the friendliness of the folks who live their gay culture served with an ample dose of natural beauty — an affordable and rejuvenating way to be out and proud without having to worry about cover charges, valet parking or waiting lists. Not every gay adventure requires disco ball.
Rainbow Ranch near Groesbeck, Texas. Open year round. RainbowRanch.net.
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The Thirst is REAL at Unleashed LGBTQ - AussieBum, Grindr, ADDICTED, & RIDE BodyWorx Join Line-Up
Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual is proud to partner with some of the hottest brands to bring you virtual fashion shows, topic discussions, and happy hour panels. Still thirsty? We got you! Here’s a few brands you can expect to see at Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual…
AussieBum celebrates 20 years.
AussieBum: This premier Australian underwear and swimsuit company has reached worldwide success and notoriety by making some of the sexiest mens apparel over the last 20 years. This virtual fashion event will showcase the latest products from their 2021 spring/summer collection. Fashion show will be followed by interview with founder and CEO Sean Ashby.
Grindr is renowned for being the world’s largest gay dating app. With such success, Grindr has learned a lot from a marketing standpoint. While large companies have been eager to show support to the LGBTQ community, for example: ads with gay couples, Andy Kraut explains from his own professional experience In brand partnerships, how many companies today have steered clear, and in some cases, discriminated against businesses like Grindr. Even with large audiences and preferred demographics, many companies are still reluctant to advertise with the tech giant. Advertisements obviously use sex to sell, So why not gay sex?
ADDICTED, the world famous Barcelona based, swimsuit, underwear, and athletic brand has always had a reputation for top-notch quality products, immaculate ads/marketing, and beautiful models. What's in store for 2021? Well, check out the online store, hun. Also, be sure to register to attend Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual, where Addicted will be hosting an exclusive online fashion show that will no doubt leave you wanting more. (Addicted yet? You will be.)
Sliquid- RIDE BODYWORX Part of unleashed lgbtq happy hour
RIDE BodyWorx has grown from a lube manufacturer, creating some of the highest quality lubricants on the market, to a lifestyle product powerhouse, producing grooming products, shaving cream and beard oil. partnerships with Rocco Steele and Buck Angel helped propel RIDE to new levels of recognition. RIDE Bodyworx Also shows its commitment to creating high performance products for diverse consumers. T-LUBE, is a water-based personal lubricant created for trans men based off of tEstimony and personal experience. Bravo! 👏🏽
See full line-up of brands, speakers, and performers here.
Unleashed LGBTQ creates a space for brands, entertainers, and LGBTQ professionals to connect. ATTENDEES can see the latest products, services, and campaigns entering the LGBTQ market including apps, fashion, media, non-profits, travel/desTination, and more.
Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual will host keynote speakers, panels, and performances from some of the biggest names in LGBTQ film, television, & music.
Register Here.
Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual Line-Up Expands with PA Rep. Brian Sims, Carmen Carrera, Matteo Lane, & Michael Sam
BY WESLEY SMOOT
Announcing Democratic Pennsylvania Rep. and activist Brian Sims- along with more featured speakers across entertainment, culture, and business for Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual, a premier digital experience March 25-27, 2021.
“I’ve always loved State Rep Brian Sims. He always brings a fresh and fearless take, it’s evident especially, in his Twitter posts. (Follow him!) He is vocal about issues he cares about, I applaud him for speaking openly about Planned Parenthood, I can’t wait to hear him at Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual.”
-Joseph Wayne Henry Love, Director of Operations- Unleashed LGBTQ
Congressman Brian Sims will discuss with Pink Media, LGBTQ marketing expert and host of #ILoveGayToday, Matt Skallerud how the LGBTQ community has effectively used their voice and their vote to change history for the better in the 2020 presidential election..
“Big change looks A lot like smaller efforts, performed consistently, with history and morality on their side.”
-Congressman Brian Sims
PA Representative Brian Sims
Other speakers, performers, and brands confirmed for Unleashed LGBTQ ViRtual include activist, actresses, model- Carmen Carrera, who will be discussing her latest business venture CC3 Entertainment, a talent agency where Carmen aims to change the entertainment industry one booking at a time.
“I’m excited to support and work with all the iconic talent within CC3 Entertainment. We are a family. I want all of our talent to use their minds and their voices to go after all their dreams and goals. I believe in all of our talent and we will change the world in a great way.”
-Carmen Carrera Founder of CC3 Entertainment
Carmen Carrera
Matteo Lane will seduce our virtual attendees with a sultry yet hilarious rendition of Barbara Steisand’s famous jazz set at Bon Soir with his own updated stylings. Award winning director and composer Henry Koperski Accompanies Matteo on piano, together flooding Audiences with musical magic from the 1960’s.
“She was wacky, brilliant, and beautiful. She had a musical sensibility that was far too advanced for someone her age. Thankfully one of her shows was recorded and lives on as Barbara Streisand, Live at the Bon Soir.”
-Matteo Lane
Matteo Lane
Additional line-up confirmed for Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual includes:
LGBTQ Sports Icon Michael Sam
Award-winning Documentary Filmmaker Wadooah Wali
League at AT&T CEO Stacey Chosed
Find current line-up at www.unleashedlgbtq.com/lineup
Registry is open to public at no cost until January 29, 2021. Prior to closing registration, access code will be required and provided exclusively to individuals working in specific industries.
Unleashed LGBTQ creates a space for brands, entertainers, and LGBTQ professionals to connect. Attendees can see the latest products, services, and campaigns, entering the LGBTQ market including apps, fashions, non-profits, travel/destination, and more. Unleashed LGBTQ will host keynotes, panels, and performances from some of the biggest names in LGBTQ film, television, and music.
Unleashed LGBTQ Virtual
Martin Stark takes a jab at homophobia in sport
BY ARNOLD WAYNE JONES
Martin Stark
There was a time not that long ago when Martin Stark wondered whether he would live to see another sunrise.
At the end of 2017, he nearly died from Addison’s disease, a rare but grave autoimmune disorder. He survived it (barely) but found himself suffering from a form of post-traumatic stress. To shake himself from a stupor, he happened upon boxing, and his passion for the sport grew — grew so quickly and strong, in fact, that he founded the World Gay Boxing Championships (WGBC), a nonprofit dedicated to inclusiveness inside the ring.
Even though the main event — the worldwide championships bout — won’t take place for another two years, Stark is planning several gay “fight nights,” and has already generated buzz across the globe with his mission, having been profiled by the BBC, Reuters, Out.com and more.
Stark, who will deliver a keynote address and conduct an online forum for Unleashed LGBTQ, sat down with us via Zoom (he lives in Australia) to discuss boxing, his organization and the need for diversity throughout sports.
How did boxing — or sport in general — enter your life like it did?
I was always a good swimmer — I think of myself as athletic — but was always the last picked at team sports. I think [sports] is where people feel comfortable in expressing who they are. After suffering [PTSD following my near-death experience], I signed up for a series of classes [in various disciplines to get out in the world]. The second class happened to be boxing — something I never thought I’d be good at. But what more than just boosting my confidence, I really discovered a love for the sport.
What is the “outness” of athletes in Australia like — across all sports, not just boxing?
Very similar [to where it stands in the U.S. — i.e., some retired but few active openly LGBTQ players in professional leagues]. Recently, a former rugby union player, now retired from the sport, came out. What’s slightly different here is, there has been great leadership on trans and gender-diversity inclusion.
One thing that really sets WGBC apart, I think, is how inclusiveness at all levels really drives it.
Yes, we call it a straight-friendly organization! We just want to increase inclusion and participation in boxing. It’s important to share your vision and connect with people in the community. And the truth is, it could not have happened without straight allies backing me. A friend who is a lawyer set up the [articles of incorporation]. Another developed the first website for free. I approached Boxing Australia [the governing body for amateur boxing Down Under] and they agreed to endorse and support the championship. They are also providing institutional guidance. There is also a London group [dedicated to inclusive boxing] but nothing on the scale of the championships [we will be presenting 2023]. We already have a high number of trans men who want to box. We have good diversity across the boxing community.
You’re basically following the rules applicable to all amateur boxing, though, aren’t you?
Yes, we have weight divisions but also [categorize athletes] by experience and age to make sure it’s safe. You would never have an experienced heavyweight boxing a welterweight [new to boxing]. So there’s physical safety, but also the psychological safety that people feel when they know they are welcomed, accepted.
What do you hope to accomplish?
Sport has been a bastion in homophobia and transphobia for years and it takes an individual to stand up and say. “This is where it ends.” I set up the organization to disrupt homophobia and transphobia in sport so that in 10 years, it no longer exists. We have gone from champions who make transphobic remarks [in the past] to those same champions attacking those who make them now. Hopefully we have reached a point in society where we don’t need to use the word like “ally.”
How will you achieve that?
It’s all about speaking up. Most people object to offensive behavior, but more people need to report it and stand up to it to really force the mainstream [culture] to step in, and not to hear racist or homophobis remarks [and let them slide]. We should call out racism, sexism or behaviors where people are made to feel disrespected.
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Arnold Wayne Jones
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BEARABLE FASHION
Designer Nicholas Clements-Lindsey couldn’t find sexy clothes for men of size like himself. So he created them
By ARNOLD WAYNE JONES
Ever notice how, at the end of a runway show, the designer comes out to take a bow and is usually dressed like he just wandered off the street and picked through a hamper? Some designers only know how to dress model-thin women, and leave themselves to the rack at The Gap.
Well, not Nicholas Clements-Lindsey. The Angeleno (and former Dallasite) was a fashionista before he was a fashion designer — a man who had a great sense of style about his own person and the courage to show it off. And that’s not always easy for a tall, big man for whom fashion options often seemed relegated to muumuus, kaftans and sweatpants. (But hey, nobody’s dissing a good pair of grey sweatpants!)
It was the desire to let other big men the freedom to express themselves and embrace their plus-sized bodies that led him to found (with business partner Grant Barrett) a new company which he dubs an “online subscription social brand” called Bearbox. It’s more than just fashion, though — it’s about lifestyle.
There are two components to Bearbox; one is where the “social” part comes in. The idea is to offer a platform for larger (gay) men to network and share their thoughts on body image and more. Then there is the apparel aspect to “make people feel comfortable and sexy in the skin they are in.”
All of this is a deviation from his original career track. After attending Texas Christian University in Fort Worth, Clements-Lindsey interned in Italy initially to study music. He quickly changed to studying culture and fashion and those became his passions. “I wanted to create a new world, but I didn’t know how to sew and I wasn’t a great sketcher,” he laughs.
He returned to North Texas and set off to teach himself pattern-making and sewing and construction over the course of a summer. He ended up making an eight-piece collection which he mounted for a few dozen influencers (full disclosure: I attended that show). It was a hit with some powerful people at Vogue and Essence “even though I didn’t know what I was doing!” He eventually showed in Los Angeles Fashion Week and later New York Fashion Week, at which time he became the youngest Black designer ever to mount a collection at the storied showcase.
Fashion took a back seat to his career in technology, but the desire to find clothes that were fun and comfortable remained a constant bee in his ear. He talked to men around the world to find a luxury men’s apparel brand for men of size who want to feel sexy even if they don’t have the traditional “hot gay male” body type.
“It’s about what’s comfortable to bears and what makes them feel accepted,” he says. “I’ve learned a lot from the bear community about what they like and don’t like to wear. Bear fashion isn’t that exciting — regular T-shirts, shorts. But the fun part is the personality that makes their clothes so much more fun. We are colorful and quick to speak and snappy with one-liners. So we wanted a vibrant, or comic-nerd style of fashion and old classics. We want to build that into this brand.”
Sometimes being different can stir resentment. He recalls how, some years ago, he went out with friends in L.A “wearing a legwarmer and a shirt with a cute little scarf and a bag — everyone thought that was so cute.” He was surprised, then, that when he showed up at a party in Dallas a few months later similarly dressed the host was angered. “I know in Dallas if I wear something I will get a different reaction than if I wear [Ralph Lauren] Polo among a white crowd,” he says.
The models on Bearbox reflect his commitment to inclusion. All are plus-sized, some more muscular while others more teddybearish; some are hairy and others bald; some young, some middle aged; and they span different races and ethnicities. But they all have in common the desire to own their fleshiness.
“I’m a size 40, and the clothes I was seeing in the stores in West Hollywood didn’t represent me as a person of size or as a person of color,” Clements-Lindsey says. “There was a disconnect. I decided we have to do better than this. And then I realized guys want to talk to other guys who look like themselves, but are missing out on something very special. I wanted all kinds of guys to get together and know themselves.” (He’s already received support from folks like out Looking star Daniel Franzese; even Drag Racer Tatiana is a fan.)
He learned a lot about digital media as well as fashion tech and designs by consulting men from around the world. But the project became even more profound for him while launching the brand during Black Lives Matter.
“We are such a sexualized community but very clique-ish as well, even before BLM, I noticed people of color have a hard time reaching out to the mainstream community with an initial conversation about race,” Clements-Lindsey says. “One of my struggles during this moment is that I had so many conversations with people all around the world who didn’t understand what was going on [in the U.S. concerning race relations]. Some were like, ‘Well if it’s not happening on my doorstep it’s not my problem.’ But because the brand is meant to be so inclusive, it was important to bring a social aspect to it and talk it over. I needed to go ahead and break that mold. Creating an underwear brand while having people talk about issues seemed important.”
Sizes for the brand start at 34 — no S-XS for his clientele — and go up to size 52. Currently Bearbox offers underwear and streetwear, but Clements-Lindsey has plans for expansion.
“Jockstraps are our staple right now,” he says. “Our main focus is our underwear and activewear, but we want to do swimwear and trunks in the future. It’s a process. There’s a lot of trial and error. I just wanted to make a difference.”
You can shop BearboxWorld.com and follow the brand on Instagram.
Craving Ham and Cheese this Summer!!! Interview w Big Dipper
July 6, 2020
Dallas, TX
Big Dipper - The Ham and Cheese EP 2020
The Ham and Cheese EP
I’ve been a fan of Big Dipper since 2013. It wasn’t until I came across his music video Lookin, from the LATE BLOOMER album (2018), that I really got to appreciate who he was as an artist. Like most of his YouTube videos, Lookin was accompanied by beefy men, over the top choreography, and sexually explicit lyrics. What’s not to love? As an artist, it’s hard not to see Big Dipper as a testament to confidence and body positivity. His music resonates with me and I’m sure other gays in the community who don’t look like Andrew Christian models, nor want to.
A self proclaimed bear, Big Dipper has performed at some of the biggest Pride festivals across the United States. He is quickly becoming a gay icon as a rapper, comedian, and entertainer. When I learned he was putting out an EP for 2020, just in time for Pride, I had to get my hands on a copy.
The Ham and Cheese EP, consists of 5 uber upbeat tracks — sure to get you on your feet, shakin that ass! Produced with the help of So Drove and featuring Boy Radio and TT THE ARTIST, this album is quickly becoming one of my favorites of 2020.
With the way things look, we may all be celebrating Pride from home due to COVID-19. If that’s the case, be sure to make The Ham and Cheese EP part of your Pride playlist (Available on iTunes, Apple Music, and Spotify).
I talked with Big Dipper about The Ham and Cheese EP, and all the tea got spilt!
Pinkies up, and sip!…
Weslo: Ok, so these are some bangers! Perfect for dance clubs and festivals. Was that the goal?
Big Dipper: After my album LATE BLOOMER came out in 2018 I immediately wanted to start writing music again. As an independent artist, it's really a whole process to release music, especially with a video and a press rollout. The 2018 album took about 3 years to put together, so I wanted to write something faster that I could release quicker. I partnered with my friend So Drove on all five songs. We worked for about two months once or twice a week and wrote a handful of songs. Then we chose the 5 best tracks for the EP. The goal was to just write good music with my friend.
Weslo: How would you describe The Ham and Cheese EP to your fans?
Big Dipper: 13 minutes of greatness!! There isn't a dull moment, really... all the songs are good, and basically there is something for everyone. A rap song, a pop song, a rock song, a dance song, a club song. We made sure to give you everything you need.
Weslo: The title track Ham and Cheese, I couldn't help but notice the baseball bat reference, was that a nod to the Peanut Butter Jelly Time, the classic youtube video or Family Guy?
Big Dipper: It's definitely a nod to the song "Peanut Butter Jelly Time." That was such an anthem when I was growing up. Basically it was like an analog meme in high school. We would all sing the hook and dance with one another and it was so infectious. That has stuck with me my whole life. I just love how campy those lyrics are and I wanted to pay homage to that idea and flip it to be a little more my brand.
Weslo: Did you use this quarantine time to record and mix The Ham and Cheese EP?
Big Dipper: No. We made all of this music last summer, but I'm really slow at releasing things. Once I finish music I tend to sit on it for a bit...then once I'm ready to release it, I want to make a music video or two and figure out all the details. I don't have a huge machine behind me, so it always feels super slow, but I like to do it my way. The plan was always summer 2020 for a release, but I wasn't planning on only promoting from home. I had a bunch of gigs lined up for Prides and other parties and I was excited to perform all the music from the EP live for an audience and share it with everyone.
Weslo: Late Bloomer had 12 songs, any reason this is a shorter album?
Big Dipper: This is an EP so we never set out to make a full length album. When I was making LATE BLOOMER I put so much pressure on myself to try and make everything perfect. I would go back and redo vocals and mixes and just second guess everything. I wanted to make music with a more carefree attitude; just write stuff for fun and put it out. That's what THE HAM AND CHEESE EP is.
Weslo: What was it like working with Boy Radio and TT The Artist? I gotta say Like This was a favorite.
Big Dipper: I love both of them. The collaborations were pretty easy because they are both pros. TT is out here in Los Angeles so we got to record together which was awesome. She is a total powerhouse and sounds so good on the track. Boy Radio did his vocals in New York, but then came to LA to shoot the music video for LIKE THIS. I love his vibe, and he's been so supportive of the music video and the EP release. I have had some great features on my releases in the past, but these are some of the best.
Weslo: I have to ask, was BACK UP OFF ME about anyone in particular? Spill the Tea!
Big Dipper: As I started writing that song, I was definitely pulling from some specific experiences and certain "frenemies" in my life. But as the song took shape, the lines blurred a bit and now it's more generally an anthem for all the haters out there. My hope is a lot of people can relate to being underestimated and having people talk shit about them. We also shot a music video for BACK UP OFF ME that will hopefully come out this summer. It's so fucking cool, I can't wait to share that with everyone too.
Weslo: What are you most excited about doing once this quarantine is over?
Big Dipper: Playing live shows! I love getting up in front of a crowd and entertaining. Doing digital concerts is fun, but it's not the same. I can't wait to play a show again.
Weslo: Who is your favorite rapper of all time?
Big Dipper: I think Nicki Minaj. I have always loved her, tho I wouldn't consider myself a Barb cause I don't start shit on Twitter lol. I also love Busta Rhymes and Missy Elliott.
Weslo: Why is body positivity so important to you?
Big Dipper: Body Positivity is self love is self confidence is good energy is happiness. It's all related to living a life that avoids as much negativity as possible. I just try to practice things in my life that lead to happiness and I think loving your body is one of those things. I never set out to spread the message of body positivity, but I'm really happy that people see that in me. It's so important to be kind to yourself and love yourself so you can put that energy out to others. Also confidence is the magic ingredient when it comes to sexiness. I think people are sexier than they think they are, so I want everyone to love themselves and be confident, so then there is a lot more sexiness out in the world.
Weslo: Sloppy Seconds, your podcast with Meatball is an office favorite at Unleashed LGBTQ. Ya'll are always having a good time and interviewing huge names. Anyone you're dying to interview?
Big Dipper: Thanks so much for listening! I love doing the podcast and I hope Meatball does as well, lol. It's so nice to get to release a show every week where we can be ourselves and interview people we like and admire. I would love to have Leslie Jordan on the show, Bob The Drag Queen would be awesome too. I've always loved Maya Rudolph and that would be an amazing interview too. Especially now that we are separated and recording remotely, making the show happen every week can be a bit stressful, but I'm super grateful for the platform and that I get to work with Meatball.
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Shedding Light on Dark Room Collection- Interview with Paul McNulty
As an avid underwear shopper, I’m always excited to see new brands and products as they come out. I’m blessed to live in Dallas, TX where the shops in the gayborhood are plentiful and offer a wide selection of undies, swimsuits, jocks, and fetish gear.
While browsing Instagram, I came across, none other than Dark Room Collection. This thirst trap of a post was modeled by two beefy, bearded guys: Paul McNulty (@djpjm1) and Andres Santana (@thesan_edin). So, would a sophisticated lady like myself fall for this trap?
A second later I was on the website. I was pleasantly surprised by their fresh take on, umm… everything. I found at least five items I absolutely had to have right away. Being a London-based company, it took a bit longer to get here, but in the end, it was definitely worth the wait. I fell in love with the fit, materials, and design immediately. But what I loved most was that Dark Room Collection is owned and operated by the two gorgeous models I saw on the website. Not only are they a couple in business, they’re engaged to be married.
Yes, Paul and Andres, pictured below, are obviously hot AF but also ambitious AF. The two saw an opportunity to enter a market and make their mark and they did just that. Respect, queens.
I got a chance to chat with Mr. Paul and learn how he and his sexy fiancé, Andres, came up with Dark Room Collection. Here’s what he had to say. Enjoy. ;)
Andres- @thesan_edin (left) & Paul- @djpjm1 (right)
Weslo: How did you come up with the idea for Dark Room Collection?
Paul: It all started with a calendar of myself that Andres shot back in 2016 (for 2017) It was done in a Dark Room setting. From there we released prints from the calendar and then a t-shirt from it. As things progressed we kept the Dark Room name and expanded on doing jockstraps, etc.
Weslo: How is Dark Room different than other gay apparel brands?
Paul: We model all our own gear. If we wouldn’t wear it ourselves we won’t sell it to our customers. We are completely hands on with it from photography, design, and even postage and packing- all done by ourselves!
Weslo: What has been the public's response to Dark Room?
Paul: Out of the gate, very positive!
Weslo: So it wasn’t difficult to break into the market?
Paul: We have been very lucky. We kind of fell into doing the brand. We both already had a big social media following and had been working with parties around the world while gogo dancing. So we already had the connections to sponsor the parties and a big target market reach for promotion! We just had to make sure we got the products right!
Weslo: Do you have a favorite product/design that you offer? What is it?
Paul: All of the brand new Violation Collection.
Violation Collection 2020
Weslo: Do you have any other favorite gay apparel brands?
Paul: We always love to browse around BOXER shops when we visit Berlin and Barcelona.
Weslo: Where do you get your inspiration for your designs?
Paul: A lot of the time we will have a look at what fetish gear we own and put our spin on it.
Weslo: You own and operate Dark Brand with your husband, Andres— what is that like?
Paul: Great. We definitely make a good team and have completely different skill sets that compliment each other very well.
Weslo: Has traveling as a dancer helped you spend the word about Dark Room?
Paul: 100% - most of our market is in the U.S. Around 80% of our orders. So it’s been great to get around and meet our customers. Last year I made it around to Dallas, New York, PTown, LA, LongBeach and Minneapolis - we always seem to get a spike in customers once we have visited that city!
Weslo: What do you hope to accomplish with Dark Room and what can we expect to see in the future?
Paul: We would love to still to be around in 10 years and have some of our own shops in some of our favourite cities around the world.
Well, there it is. Enjoy the eye candy that is Paul and Andres in the photos below and follow the link to find your next circuit party gear once the Covid-19 gives us our lives back.
Wesley Smoot
Product Review - TOM OF FINLAND ORGANIC VODKA
May 7, 2020
Dallas, TX
Most of us are familiar with Tom of Finland, (Touko Laaksonsen) the Finnish artist and gay icon known for his homoerotic artwork. He created images of hyper-masculine bikers, sailors, and cowboys that are just as relevant today as ever. Want proof? Just stop by The Eagle on leather night and take a peek. Hell, you might even be one of them (DM me pics if so).
Tom of Finland’s name has been used to sell not only his artwork but everything from apparel to sex toys. It has been the inspiration for a feature biographical film (Tom of Finland) as well as the inspiration for many gay porn films. There is even a Tom of Finland Foundation in Los Angeles, created to preserve erotic art and advocate tolerance towards sexuality.
While shopping at my local liquor store in the gayborhood (Cedar Springs in Dallas, TX), I spot something with a very familiar name. Was it Tom of Finland? Yes! Was it a sex toy? No! It was Tom of Finland Organic Vodka. I was immediately intrigued. The bottle was equipped with the iconic artwork you would expect from the Tom of Finland brand. It included a masculine male profile rocking a leather hat, leather jacket, and a thick mustache. The bottle read: Distilled from Organic Grain (Rye and wheat to be exact). I took out my phone and with a quick google search I found this vodka is distilled using pure arctic water and made with no sugar. Sounds impressive, I thought. I went in deeper.
Tom of Finland Organic Vodka is the brainchild of One Eyed Spirits, a progressive Finnish company made up of ex ad creatives who aim to nurture brand ideas and find ways to bring them to life. Not a bad mission statement. After all, these are the same guys who brought us Ron de Jeremy Rum (yes, pornstar Ron Jeremy has his own rum).
I proceeded to check out and even with paying considerably more than I normally do for my Tito’s Handmade Vodka, I was excited to get home and give it a try. I typically put a half ounce in a shot glass for a quick taste if I’m trying a new spirit. I do this to appreciate the quality (or lack there of) even though I plan on mixing it later with Topo Chico or club soda later. What did I learn?
I can honestly say this is one of the best vodkas I’ve ever tried. I am not much of a martini drinker but after that sample the martini glasses came out. I put two ounces of Tom of Finland Organic Vodka, a bit of dry vermouth, and some ice in a shaker. I did a cute dance (seriously adorable) and poured what is now one of my favorite drinks in my fanciest martini glass.
Vodka and martini drinkers, I highly encourage you to give this one a try. While it’s not the most available product yet, you can request your local liquor store to order it from their distributor. You can also take it upon yourself to do a little cruising. I promise you this, he’s worth finding.
Wesley Smoot
Staying Busy and Slaying Henny! - Rising star Stevie Boi is not letting quarantine slow him down
May 5, 2020
Dallas, TX
New York based designer Stevie Boi has gained incredible momentum in the fashion eyewear scene with SB Shades. At just 30 years old, this Augusta, GA born designer has used his over-the-top sunglasses to style some of the biggest stars including Madonna, Ke$ha, and Amber Rose. While this is exceptionally impressive, Stevie Boi is no one trick pony. He owns and operates clothing brand SK8T, and is author of Shade Built my Empire, a book about brand identity and building a business from the ground up. In his self-titled vlog, Stevie Boi, he travels the world showcasing his brand and interacts with other fashionistas making stops in Iceland, Paris, and cities all over the U.S.
Even with so much accomplished, Stevie Boi knows it is imperative for any rising star to keep their momentum if they want to have a lasting career. So when a global pandemic like COVID-19 strikes, what does he do? One word:
Werk!
We got the chance to chat with Stevie Boi about his time in quarantine and some of his latest projects. And yes, he has been staying busy. So if you’re tired of being asked “Are you still watching?” then keep reading. Stevie Boi’s work ethic is enough to make any queen hop off their throne (couch) and get back to work on those passion projects.
Weslo: What have you been doing since the quarantine started?
Stevie Boi: Work! But also lots and lots of cooking. I wanted to use this time to focus on a new book. So with that being said, a cookbook seemed like the logical next step. It’s something I’ve always wanted to sink my teeth into, lol. So I figured, why not? I have also designed two new lines.
Weslo: Yas! What’s the name of this cookbook and what makes it different?
Stevie Boi: My book is titled Stevie Boi Eats presents: Season to Taste. It’s a personal take, based on my travels around the world. I have some unique recipes I’ll be dishing out from my time in Europe, and being the Georgia peach I am, I’ll be fusing them with some southern recipes.
Weslo: Can we expect these recipes to be accompanied by some fabulous photos?
Stevie Boi: Yas Queen! 80% of the book will have photos and I’m excited to say I am working with Michael Antonio and Nikon Don, some of my favorite photographers. Because of this pandemic, we have put our shoots on hold but that won’t stop me from working on everything else I can get done in the meantime.
Weslo: What do you plan on accomplishing with this cookbook?
Stevie Boi: Most of the public knows me for my design work and for being a video personality. But if you really know me personally, you know I love to cook. I think this will introduce that part of me to the world. I have been cooking my entire life. I can’t wait for the day I get to do tours and pop ups at book stores. That seems like so much fun.
Weslo: You also mentioned you have been working on two different lines during the quarantine. What can you tell us about those?
Stevie Boi: I have been working on my current line is SK8T, of course, but I have also recently decided to plan out my next two years of collections. One of them is incredibly vibrant. I think Betsy Johnson would love it, lol. The other line is Olympic-themed and features lots of gold tones. Can’t wait for you to see it!
Weslo: Sounds fun and ambitious. Is the Olympic-theme collection workout apparel?
Stevie Boi: Its a mix of athletic gear and high fashion, same but separate, lol. You’ll know it when you see it. ;)
Weslo: You were part of film that was to be screened for SXSW 2020. We know it was canceled due to COVID-19. What can you tell us about that project?
Stevie Boi: I had a small role as a model in the film. I was promoting my P!NK Collection. I actually still haven’t seen the film myself but I know it will be fab!
Weslo: Do you have any tips for our readers on how to stay motivated during this quarantine?
Stevie Boi: Yes! I would suggest finding three hobbies a day. I like to start with cooking breakfast in the a.m. I start designing until the late afternoon and meditate before bed. I have also been using a humidifier during quarantine to improve air quality, it really helps me relax. Lastly drink lots of water! I like to add lemon and cucumbers. I love to detox at least three days out of the week.
SK8T by Stevie Boi
Product Review - PURE FOR MEN
When I first heard about PURE FOR MEN, I thought what a great gimmick. It’s probably just like any fiber supplement but in this case it’s being targeted to gay men. After all, giving confidence to bottoms with promise of staying clean is something that any one on the receiving end would find appealing. Most of us have been in that position (pun intended), and it can be a quick way to kill the mood from top to bottom. You meet a guy at a bar, things get hot, and you don’t necessarily have time to tidy up. I know… tragic.
So what if there was a fiber supplement you could take daily that could keep you ready for those intimate moments no matter how spontaneous? PURE FOR MEN’s makes this very claim and with the hashtag #STAYREADY- we can all agree this is a product most of us would be happy to try. But how does it work?
Fiber is a very important part of a balanced diet. Few adults consume the recommended amount of fiber to maintain a healthy digestive system. Many of the foods high in fiber can prove to be inconvenient for the queens on the go or are just plain gross (ew). PURE FOR MEN is an all natural, vegan capsule for daily use. It’s proprietary blend of chia seeds, flax seeds, psyllium husk, and aloe vera that helps your body produce fuller movements, keeping you clean when it matters most. This blend of soluble and insoluble fiber cleans your digestive system thoroughly and reduces the time needed to get ready. Hence, #STAYREADY. But does it work?
Yas! I definitely had my reservations when I first received these supplements in the mail. I thought its extra fiber! Hell, it can’t hurt. I started a daily regimen with the recommended dose, 3 capsules and 16 oz of water. The results? After a week of taking PURE FOR MEN I noticed a considerable difference in both my movements and in my confidence when bottoming. No extended time needed for prepping and no mess after the fact. For a bigger guy like myself (5’10, 205 lbs.) I wasn’t quite sure if the recommended amount would make a difference. I eat fairly healthy and have a fast metabolism, even at 36 years old. I can say my metabolism is even faster and I’m happy to say I have even dropped a few pounds since I have started taking the daily dose. Now I’m feeling confident for other reasons entirely.
PURE FOR MEN offers a variety of products beyond supplements to help you feel fresh and of course #STAYREADY. The charcoal-activated soap is a personal favorite. Its a natural deodorizer that removes access oils and bacteria and leaves your hiney smelling fresh as a daisy. Other products include an organic, non-GMO scrub to exfoliate your every “nook and cranny”, as they put it, charcoal infused wipes that eliminate odors, and I can honestly say the lube is one of the best on the market.
I give two very enthusiastic bums up to PURE FOR MEN. You can order products individually or save vodka soda money by purchasing the Stay Ready Collection that comes with a variety of goodies at www.pureformen.com
Also be sure to follow their social media for more on new products, deals, and lots of eye candy. And remember! #STAYREADY queens!
Wesley Smoot/Creator of Unleashed LGBTQ
RIDE LUBE joins Unleashed LGBTQ Expo
Joining us March 28-29, 2020 at Unleashed LGBTQ Expo is Ride Lube.
RIDE BODYWORX offers one the highest quality personal lubricants I have found on the market. I was fortunate to have already known the marketing director Erik Vasquez. At the time I knew him as the president of Impulse Group Dallas. He was one of the first people I met in moving to Dallas with a larger than life personality and smile more contagious than mono at Pride. He offered our office some samples to take home and after a night or two of very exhilarating experimentation we offered a space to Erik and RIDE LUBE.
We are all very excited to see what he will bring to Unleashed LGBTQ Expo in March. Samples? Models? Slip and Slide? We’ll have to be patient and see.
RIDE BODYWORX offers a variety products including personal lubricants, performance gel and spray, grooming products, apparel and more.
For more information check out:
www.ridelube.com
#RideLube #RIDEBODYWORX #UnleashedLGBTQ
Wolf Daddy Apparel
Wolf Daddy Apparel started off like many social media pages. Providing motivational quotes and positive content was the initial goal of founder, David Stowe. David said he was known in the community as someone who would “literally give the shirt off his back.” And if I may say, with that body, seeing him shirtless will not get any complaints, at least not from any of the queens I know. David was convinced the next logical step was to create Wolf Daddy Apparel.
“As I worked through this, It seems to me that many clothing brands have lost some of their originality and no longer draw the attention of those seeking new ideas. In some cases, profit has trumped quality on brands with the customers losing the value they originally enjoyed, leaving them to search out new brands of higher quality and purpose.”
His mission became clear. To provide quality apparel at reasonable prices with personal messages that resonate with you. Just as WolfDaddyTX shares motivational messages and new ways to look at old problems, it is hoped that the Wolf Daddy logo, designs and slogans remind you that there are always positive ways to view, set and achieve your goals & your dreams. Some of our designs are edgy and humorous, but that's O.K. It never hurts to laugh a little bit while starting new conversations with old and new friends.
David stresses the importance of being proud of who you are. He is one who understands what it takes to be ones best self and hopes he can spread his positive message through his products.
Learn more about Wolf Daddy Apparel at:
www.wolf-daddy.com
And join his pack hotties as he unveils new designs at Unleashed LGBTQ Expo March 28-29, 2020
#WolfDaddy #UnleashedLGBTQ
Our date has moved!
We are very excited to announce we have acquired new partners and investors for the much anticipated Unleashed LGBTQ! We will be moving the date to March 28, 2020 for our expo. We will also be adding several other days to include film and music. We will make updates as they are confirmed. We really appreciate all the support we have received from our sponsors, exhibitors, and the community, We look forward to seeing you in March. Please sign up for updates for more information on these details. #UnleashedLGBTQ
Wesley Smoot
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Giveaways from HyperX
Hyper X has provided us with some incredible giveaways for all our “Gaymers” including Cloud Earbuds, Pulse Fire Surge RGB Gaming Mouse, Alloy FPS RGB Mechanical Keyboard, Hyper X Fury S Pro Gaming Mouse Pad, Hyper X Cloud Stinger Wireless Gaming Headset.
https://www.hyperxgaming.com/us
